Conversations about sculpting the spaces between us
How do you sift through all the relationship advice out there and find what will actually work for you?
Magenta FM looks at relationships of all stripes to find answers that are deep and wise, rather than popular, convenient, or conventional.
We draw from obscure sources, secret western esoteric knowledge, and our own experiences in the trenches of people problem-solving to bring you ideas out of left field that will challenge your assumptions, and enrich your thinking about the nature of creating the spaces between us.
In this episode, we talk about needs versus strategies, and why conflating these two things can destroy relationships. We introduce Non-Violent Communication as a starting point for understanding the definition of needs and strategies as a new language with which we need to become conversant — and how helpful and healing this can be.
We tell some stories of the consequences of NOT knowing about needs and strategies, such as top reasons for divorce, infidelity, why making demands is so common — and so destructive, neediness, complaining, and how to meet all the needs of a busy household. We spend some time talking about needs that are forbidden — the ones we're not allowed to have.
We cover off the alternative to making demands — making a request, and finally talk about what elevates the social realm to an art form: freedom.
Book we mention: Nonviolent Communication: A Language of Life. Life-Changing Tools for Healthy Relationships, by Marshall Rosenberg.
List of needs Words: https://magenta.fm/needs-words/
Why you can’t fake a true and elevated presence
What are the fruits of us doing our inner work? In this episode, Louisa and Rachel dive into the many benefits of cultivating an elevated and authentic presence. They cover issues such as fragility and how we become addicted to our wounds.
What does true presence look like? And how does it help you become a leader in your life, in your work, in your relationships, or as a parent.
Take Back Your Power!
This episode Louisa and Rachel discuss: what is a dynamic? How do we take back our power? And why is it so hard to not take things personally? We go into why it's so freeing to understand how we each internalize the relationship dynamic we're struggling with — and why we should leave the other out of this analytic process. We build on the previous episodes in this deeper dive.
Why we need an anatomy lesson... for the soul
An essential part of understanding why we get into relationship dynamics is understanding ourselves and our triggers. But in order to do that, we need some way of seeing into what is essentially an invisible, intangible realm: our inner selves. We go into anatomy of the soul as a practical tool both for us and for better understanding why we get caught in relationship dynamics.
Everything you believed about relationship problems is wrong
In this first episode of Magenta FM Season One, "The Art of Relationships," Louisa and Rachel dive into a difficult but liberating concept that runs counter to what we automatically believe to be true when in a conflict or dynamic with another — BUT if we can wrap our heads around it, it can set us free.