Louisa

How do you deal with anxiety?

There’s degrees of suffering from acute, to that chronic and under the radar but always there kind of anxiety. And then there’s generalized anxiety disorder where the anxiety rules your life. Regardless of the degree, you might not even know what it feels like to NOT be anxious. But there is a huge secret we…

A made-up word that’s a useful tool

Here’s a made up word that might be a useful tool for you: “Thoughting” (verb). Def: thinking thoughts that you have previously thought many times before or believing ideas about yourself or the world which are accompanied by negative feelings such as anger, despair, fear, doubt, etc… Here are some common characteristics: “Everyone ALWAYS…” (fill…

4 reasons why we stay in dead-end relationships

Here in California spring is beginning to gain some momentum, and the large amount of rain is predicting a superb flowering season. And while spring is glorious and full of life and promise for most people, for some of us it can be a bit fraught. Something that has been contracted within us throughout the…

Solve your tough relationship issues

Have you been in this situation: someone got offended because you didn’t do the right thing, or you said the wrong thing, and even though you would NEVER have intentionally hurt them, still they are offended? And now you don’t know what to do? OR, maybe it was you who felt offended and hurt by…

Pay better attention to your feelings

We are always feeling but seldom do we actually pay attention to what’s happening in our feeling life. This week, we outline a path for developing our feeling life from what is normal to something truly healthy. Drawing from the work of Georg Kühlewind, we outline two categories of feelings: cognitive feelings and non-cognitive feelings.…

The quality of your presence matters

One of the things we’ve learned is that when you walk into a room, you can have an outsized impact merely with the quality of your presence. Let us demonstrate with some easy examples: Have you ever experienced someone walking in who was angry about something, even though they didn’t say a word —…