You must be empty before you can receive – here’s why

There’s something I’ve noticed in the aftermath of confronting a wound or place of weakness in me and finally owning up to the problem. And that is, I feel trepidation in letting the wounded part of me go. I don’t know who I am when I empty out of all that used to fill my…

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The dark is too dark, and the light too bright

  There are two reasons why you have to have a strong and cultivated light within you when you do inner work: The big one is that when you start peering into the darkness of your inner world, wounds and issues harboring there will emerge because wounds always seek healing. And the truth of what…

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Why chronic anxiety is so hard to heal

Chronic anxiety is very challenging to heal because of the inherently addictive nature of your feelings. Here’s why: Your feelings in the moment are nearly impossible to change without suppression. Just try not feeling enraged when it sweeps over you. This obvious nature of your feelings is the cause of the not-so-obvious reason why certain…

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How do you deal with anxiety?

There’s degrees of suffering from acute, to that chronic and under the radar but always there kind of anxiety. And then there’s generalized anxiety disorder where the anxiety rules your life. Regardless of the degree, you might not even know what it feels like to NOT be anxious. But there is a huge secret we…

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A made-up word that’s a useful tool

Here’s a made up word that might be a useful tool for you: “Thoughting” (verb). Def: thinking thoughts that you have previously thought many times before or believing ideas about yourself or the world which are accompanied by negative feelings such as anger, despair, fear, doubt, etc… Here are some common characteristics: “Everyone ALWAYS…” (fill…

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The quality of your presence matters

  One of the things we’ve learned is that when you walk into a room, you can have an outsized impact merely with the quality of your presence. Let us demonstrate with some easy examples: Have you ever experienced someone walking in who was angry about something, even though they didn’t say a word —…

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