In my experience, following through on making meaningful change in our lives is one of the hardest things to pull off, even though change can be so critical to our well-being.
Watching relationships fall apart; feeling powerless; finding yourself again in the same painful place you already swore you would avoid — these kinds of challenges are more important than just about anything else — and yet, nothing you try may seem to work.
I know why this happens, and I have a solution to share.
I don’t promise that it will be a quick or easy fix, but I can provide a little practical know-how that could enable you to finally understand why it is hard, and what you can do to make meaningful change possible for you. And, I also want the experience of doing so to be rich and freeing — not only hard and painful.
If that sounds good to you, then read on.
Just as we have an outer life and outer existence, we also have an inner life and existence that is made up of our private thoughts, our feelings, as well as our will and our actions. You could say that these three aspects of our inner life — thinking, feeling, and willing — are like an “anatomy” of our inner life. This is a really helpful idea because it can guide us toward our goal: knowing how to activate our will in the right way so we can get meaningful change actually happening and see our lives transformed for the better.
There’s a reason change is hard.
We can easily change our thoughts, less easily change our feelings — but changing our will is the most difficult of all. We can lift an arm or walk down the stairs at will, but changing a deeply ingrained habit is a whole other matter.
Do you know why you can’t seem to make certain things happen? Or stop doing certain other things that you should stop doing?
And yet, the will is what we are trying to access when we want to change our lives for the better.
But I do have good news for you.
You CAN access your will, it’s just that the way there is going to be somewhat indirect. Essentially, you will have to begin in your thinking where you have the most autonomy, and progress through your feeling life where you have less but still can access that life, and by that path find access to your will.
This sounds rather abstract, I know, but bear with me here.
In practice, it looks like this: you use your thinking, analytical mind to study the phenomena of your life — the part you want to change. You connect to your feelings, to what comes up in you that give you clues about what actually really matters to you. And from there, the connection to what really and deeply matters to you is the key to unlocking your will. The will needs warmth; it needs the warmth of enthusiasm to engage and to continue engaging. This is a secret of changing the will. Sometimes people can access their will through fear — which can be a powerful motivator! But that’s not sustainable. Only the warmth of the heart and genuine enthusiasm can really and truly sustain the will. What I’ve found is that the path leads in the right way from your thinking, via your heart, into your will.
When I created the YearCrafter Meditation Kit, this is the path I took, and this is the path I want to share with you. The whole process takes you on a journey that follows this path — as it should if it is to be in right relationship with the lawful nature of your soul. You will also see how this works because you will actually walk through it. And then you can adapt it whenever you need to make meaningful change in your life.
I would like for you to imagine this kit is taking you on a journey that’s potentially bigger than just goal-setting; it could actually help you connect more deeply than before with your life purpose and life’s mission.
That is my ultimate goal for you.
P.S. This is the last time you’ll be hearing about YearCrafter from me. If you’re thinking about checking it out, better do it now.